tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post4641156057349962403..comments2024-02-19T05:18:27.849-05:00Comments on <center>the Q at Parkside</center>: Sound NeighborsClarkson FlatBedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13463744536115119388noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-40533600081850730242015-03-11T16:15:53.862-04:002015-03-11T16:15:53.862-04:00Hi, anon of 10:16AM here. I would be happy to meet...Hi, anon of 10:16AM here. I would be happy to meet and figure out a way to get the hoop back on Westbury. Someone else on the block can correct me if I'm wrong, but we didn't have the same problems that Beekman Place apparently had. During the day, the late elementary to middle school set used it, at night a slightly older crowd moved in but it was fine. And it was eerily quiet and sad when the hoop went away. What was also strange is it didn't happen until August, when the hoop wasn't being used as much -- I guess hoop fatigue had set in. Anyways, I will email you offline, Mr. Q, and thank you for posting about this and getting a conversation going. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-3974351466606056232015-03-11T13:19:12.050-04:002015-03-11T13:19:12.050-04:00There's still been hanging out in nicer weathe...There's still been hanging out in nicer weather, but it's not a huge party all the time without the central hangout spot. The music issues are more sporadic, for one thing. Personally, I'm more willing to ignore quality-of-life issues like noise and hard partying (especially in summer) if I know it's not going to be right outside my front door all the time. <br /><br />I agree with you that the conversation needs to happen. I'm not disputing that some kids were affected negatively by the decision to take down the hoop full stop. And I would love to see more neighborhood opportunities for children to have safe spaces to play outside. I'm just saying that replacing the basketball hoop, and potentially letting things get back to a point where neighbors are affected on a regular basis, that's a complicated matter. At this point it's hard to see what boundaries can be negotiated for kids, cops, and neighbors alike, so I'm curious to see how this process goes. <br /><br />And totally agree that 20something obnoxiousness crosses all social groups. I wouldn't want to deal with constant outdoor hipster parties going on either. Basically, I want everyone off my lawn. By midnight, taking their garbage with them. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-83738254144534276272015-03-11T12:36:09.735-04:002015-03-11T12:36:09.735-04:00Okay. So there's no more hanging out late at n...Okay. So there's no more hanging out late at night when it gets warm? I find that hard to believe. Seems in summer there's always a lot of hanging out, but maybe taking the hoop stopped that?<br /><br />I'm told a lot of younger people were affected negatively when it was taken away. Would you dispute that?<br /><br />In other words, there are no guarantees that giving the hoop another try would work. But perhaps it IS worth having a conversation, not just calling the cops. We'll have them come to the mtg if we can set it up. Hope you'll be there too. The key is to get some of the "kids" to come, and a landlord or super or two.<br /><br />By the way, to me early 20s is kids, but I can see how some would disagree. And it's not like all the yuppies in their early 20s are well-behaved, btw! Clarkson FlatBedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13463744536115119388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-78596245951898086282015-03-11T12:27:29.864-04:002015-03-11T12:27:29.864-04:00There was a hoop on Beekman Place a couple summers...There was a hoop on Beekman Place a couple summers ago, and it was a disaster. Most of the "kids" hanging out there seemed to be in their 20s, the music and open pot smoking were out of control late into the night, and there was food garbage everywhere. It got to be like that every night, not occasional. I have no idea whether people were reporting it or what led to the hoop being removed later that year, but I was quite relieved to see it go. <br /><br />How would you guys ensure that a restored hoop on Westbury would avoid the same fate? Not being snarky, am genuinely curious...It seems like such a delicate balance between the good (somewhere for kids to hang out and play) and the bad (boundaries ignored by young people being young people, chronic disturbances for those who live on the street). The idea of managing expectations all around is a good one, but how does that actually happen in a case like this?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-50610099507037782892015-03-11T11:29:56.400-04:002015-03-11T11:29:56.400-04:00No worries! Thanks for fleshing out the story from...No worries! Thanks for fleshing out the story from another perspective.<br /><br />Look, let's get the hoop back. If you want to be part of doing that, please. I have a couple others who can help out. And let's actually make a show of it...the kids need to see that we can work together to solve problems, even with cops. Send me an email offline and we'll talk to the cops, maybe over at PlayKids.Clarkson FlatBedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13463744536115119388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-43605014824771171952015-03-11T10:16:52.203-04:002015-03-11T10:16:52.203-04:00Apologies, I wasn't intending to reach. But I ...Apologies, I wasn't intending to reach. But I realize now that my question sounds like it. I live on the block. And here's what I know. The basketball hoop, as you and another commenter noted, was a net good for this street -- which does have problems (out of control garbage, dogshit, etc.) but the hoop was not one of them. I questioned the "white neighbor" statement for this reason: last summer we went out of town and my brother-in-law came to apartment-sit for us. He's pretty white. He's also on the autistic spectrum. He enjoyed watching the basketball players and the general street life on our block. He's from the midwest, it's a novelty. <br /><br />One night, though, the cops showed up and cleared everyone out, and shortly after that the hoop was taken down. The next day, some of our neighbors began harassing my brother-in-law, calling him unkind names, asking him why he'd called the cops on them. I'm sure they picked on him in part because he's different. He most certainly did not call the cops -- why would he? He knows he's almost as likely to be mistreated as they are. Our neighbors' treatment of my brother-in-law was shameful.<br /><br />One last thing: a super on the block said he'd removed the hoop on orders from the landlord. I'm not sure if that's actually true, though, as I didn't see it myself. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-84598128919570838752015-03-11T00:08:18.593-04:002015-03-11T00:08:18.593-04:00Seriously, Q, I haven't commented on Brownston...Seriously, Q, I haven't commented on Brownstoner for about five years - it's the same old Republicans spewing hate there for years.babshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08365488181982105888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-77079604349330694622015-03-10T22:25:56.843-04:002015-03-10T22:25:56.843-04:00I wouldn't have known the story at all if it h...I wouldn't have known the story at all if it hadn't come from someone with direct involvement and knew all the players. I try not to print straight up rumor; not good for the reputation, you know?<br /><br />You're reaching anon. What I said is what I said, you don't have to believe it if you don't want to.<br /><br />Only somewhat related, I must say that most people these days are living with blinders on, but I guess we're all too busy living our own lives to give a damn about anyone else's. I was just over at Brownstoner and I can't believe the lack of sympathy in some jackass commenters. Unreal. Gotta stay outa the fray or I'm gonna go gray. Well, all the way gray.Clarkson FlatBedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13463744536115119388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-57033845023364928722015-03-10T21:40:38.410-04:002015-03-10T21:40:38.410-04:00Regarding the basketball hoop on Westbury Court, h...Regarding the basketball hoop on Westbury Court, how do you know it was a white person who called the cops and got it removed? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-22536914929839384052015-03-09T14:55:42.075-04:002015-03-09T14:55:42.075-04:00So I suppose the soundproofing entrance to Ali'...So I suppose the soundproofing entrance to Ali's was constructed because they don't GAF? Clearly they gaffed, and now they clearly GAF. Go talk to 'em, I say.<br /><br />There are all kinds of reasons that people want to create noise, smells and conduct business, and there's no reason to assume they're doing it AT YOU. That's my whole point. <br /><br />Had my neighbors not alerted my band in the '90s that we were bothered them, we would have assumed we WEREN'T. Did we GAF? Yeah. Did we push the limit? Yeah. But we weren't assholes. Just a bunch of kids trying to have a rock band. Clarkson FlatBedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13463744536115119388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-68591135853049733782015-03-09T14:48:12.426-04:002015-03-09T14:48:12.426-04:00Exactly, Curious27, people don't innocently bl...Exactly, Curious27, people don't innocently blast music late at night because they have no idea it bothers anybody. They don't GAF. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-61269405128552753722015-03-09T13:39:07.922-04:002015-03-09T13:39:07.922-04:00Dear Newcomers to Zip Code 11225,
Complaints about...Dear Newcomers to Zip Code 11225,<br />Complaints about the PO on Empire Blvd. go back years and years. Nothing ever changes. I suspect the complaints are filed somewhere back there with the missing packages never to be found.<br />On the other hand, I've always found the regular mail carriers to be helpful and friendly. I think their punishment for competence and a good attitude is to have to do the manual labor outdoors. If you want an indoor job with a chair apparently you have to be curt, apathetic, inept and slow.diakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01160226342863738763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-22793137249205826592015-03-09T11:26:04.506-04:002015-03-09T11:26:04.506-04:00I've had issues with the mail and packages as ...I've had issues with the mail and packages as well, and never had any luck with reporting to the USPS powers that be. Have you ever been to the post office on Empire? You wait in an obscenely long line just to get up to the window (no matter what time or day you're there), and eventually get to show your package slip to employees who are miffed at you for making them go check the stack of packages behind them, who tell you it's not there (when it's obviously there somewhere), and who refuse to do any real follow-up. I've used the automated phone system to "reschedule" package delivery multiple times, only to have the local Empire post office ignore it completely every time, and force me to go collect the packages using the disaster of a process outlined above--which ends up taking at least a week. The USPS clearly could not care less whether this neighborhood has good mail service. The lack of recourse is scary...It makes the 311 process look efficient and helpful in comparison.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-51720535459581390742015-03-09T10:46:02.849-04:002015-03-09T10:46:02.849-04:00We had an awful problem with a neighbor living dow...We had an awful problem with a neighbor living downstairs who would play her music far too loud and too late, then had her boyfriend move in who also enjoyed his music loud and late, and then they started smoking in the apartment while he (often) spoke in a booming voice we could hear almost clearly from our apartment above. We tried on several occasions to let them know it was loud and intrusive, and even threatened to involve the necessary powers that be, but then we found out this person had to move because she wasn't paying rent and was in the process of being evicted, and suddenly it made sense. She just didn't GAF.Curious27noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-55026029094772302272015-03-08T16:16:55.194-04:002015-03-08T16:16:55.194-04:00We've had problems with packages but not delay...We've had problems with packages but not delayed mail. You might have a carrier who isn't taking everything with him/her each day or worse. You need to report it. It's not typical.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-14182934914725030702015-03-07T14:00:09.746-05:002015-03-07T14:00:09.746-05:00Sorry to purloin this post, but
I moved to the ne...Sorry to purloin this post, but<br /><br />I moved to the neighborhood 3 months ago (hawthorne bet flatbush + bedford). Love it here after 25 years nearby in Brooklyn.<br /><br />One big thing though: is something deeply, systemically wrong with the mail in 11225? It seems that nearly every item is postmarked 2 weeks earlier, and some stuff never comes at all. Mail from Manhattan is taking 10 days or so. I imagine giant rooms full of mail being delivered incrementally.<br /><br />Anyone else notice this huge problem? Can anything be done?<br /><br />smiles.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-20034896374510776402015-03-07T12:46:00.067-05:002015-03-07T12:46:00.067-05:00Uninteresting and unimportant comment:
I've ...Uninteresting and unimportant comment:<br /><br /><br />I've seen this play out before with some roommates and a troublesome neighbor. It's all too easy to do things like bang on the wall/ceiling/floor and call 311 to try to get your problems solved for you, rather than trying to tactfully confront it yourself.<br /><br />But, you can probably guess what has had the highest success rate out of all the interventions I've tried and seen tried: person-to-person contact. A quick chat goes a long way. You may even make a new friend. Is it a result of the digital age where you can do things like order your food online and have it delivered to your house without having to say a word to anyone in the process? Are we burnt out from living in a packed city where there is little opportunity to find solitude, peace, and quiet in the midst of a stressful day? <br /><br />I find that born-and-raised NYers tend to be more open to talking with strangers than people who moved here in their 20s, however curiously I find that people in other cities tend to be more open to talking with strangers than most NYers. Does NY attract the most socially-avoidant from these other towns, or is there something else at at play?Anonymous#11noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-79397734882291244902015-03-06T22:17:40.058-05:002015-03-06T22:17:40.058-05:00Oh, and get some earplugs or my favorite, a white ...<br />Oh, and get some earplugs or my favorite, a white noise machine. They've made our life on a crazy street SO much more bearable. And I wake up less grumpy too.Clarkson FlatBedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13463744536115119388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-72519477784615780972015-03-06T22:17:30.441-05:002015-03-06T22:17:30.441-05:00The neighborhood is many things...quiet is not one...The neighborhood is many things...quiet is not one that comes to mind. Unless, of course, you live on one of the quiet streets of the Manor, where the "single family covenant" limits density to practically suburban levels. Also, most of the Manor streets don't really run "through." You hit dead ends, so they don't make good east west streets for cars or ambulances and trucks. Parkside, Clarkson, Lefferts, and oddly enough Winthrop get a lot more of that traffic. Drivers coming down Winthrop are often coming from the hospital during rush hours. But I digress...<br /><br />It's not just newcomers who deal with living on top of each other. This is a problem city-wide. Fancy coops in the City are known to break into fisticuffs over all manner of quality of living disagreements.<br /><br />So... my advice is don't be discouraged and stick up for your rights. But sometimes there ARE solutions that don't involve 311 campaigns. Which, like I said, can often be easily avoided by calling the Community Board District Manager, who has a direct line to the precinct and even Environmental Protection, which WILL come out if you have a habitual offender and you can pinpoint a time that they will be making the noise. Again, work with the DM, not the agency itself. They get too many cranks to take every complaints seriously I think.<br /><br />If you think a crime is being committed, then by all means call 911 not 311. We have the blessing of the 71st to do that. Even if it's just a matter of calling in a party that's out of hand. They may or may not arrive, but you can inquire the next day about your 911 call and see if the precinct has a reason they didn't respond. Call Vinnie Martinos at the 71st, or one of the longtime community affairs officers at the 70th if you live there. I don't know much about the 67th, except the complaints I've heard recently about a lack of response in a building on Lenox.<br /><br />But what's "out of hand?" That's relative. And what would not be tolerated in, say, Park Slope, might be routine in a denser, more diverse neighborhood. Okay, I'll translate the double-speak - a blacker or more Latino neighborhood. When summer comes (if summer comes!) things get more lively, hanging and partying in front of buildings becomes more prevalent. And THAT, I would argue, IS culture. If it's not menacing, let it be. But...and here's where race plays a huge role...what's menacing to you may not in fact be menacing at all, if you can read the subtler cues. If you see something that looks like it's going to become violent, call 911! Say a fight's breaking out, or someone's already being pounded, or you hear a gunshot, whatever is within the realm of the truth. But if it's just hanging, talking, listening to music (not too too loud), maybe it's okay to just say hello and get to know people, if they're receptive. Most people I've met are - a little outreach goes a long way. Then, when things ARE too late and too loud, maybe you have a little more say so. And not to sound patronizing (I'm sure oldtimers will roll their eyes at this one), but those handshakes that I hear people say are drug deals usually aren't. Pay attention and you'll see that guys are just saying hello in the ever-evolving creative way that black men do. You'll get to know a REAL drug dealer after awhile, the kind that's scarily out in the open. There aren't as many as some people think. But there ARE bad guys out there. Keep your eyes open and you'll be fine.<br /><br />Density is a fact of life in and near Manhattan. And it will continue to get denser as the City grows. Heck, the country is growing. The WORLD is growing. Sometimes it's easy to forget that population is going in just one direction. We need to figure out how to live with each other...share the great things of the City with each other, without driving each other crazy. It can be ugly sometimes, but it's part of this great experiment called NYC.<br />Clarkson FlatBedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13463744536115119388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-6533045595546149462015-03-06T18:49:36.468-05:002015-03-06T18:49:36.468-05:00We had some problems with people playing loud musi...We had some problems with people playing loud music from their cars and drinking outside on our dead end last summer (Beekman PL) and heavily utilized 311. On several occasions, the cops came but often it was hours later and either the sound had subsided (it was 3 am after all) or the offenders turned the music down when they saw the police. We were new to the neighborhood and were totally caught off guard by this issue (as I'm guessing most people who recently moved here are) - we thought we were moving to a quiet little street! Admittedly, we could have come downstairs and asked them to turn down the music but it was late, they were drunk, and we were in our pajamas. Can you blame us? Also there was no way to have a calm conversation given that the partying often didn't start until late. I will say that our regular complaints did get the attention of a local sergeant who sent us a personal email and gave us a direct number to text if we observed people drinking/getting high so that was reassuring. <br /><br />With a business, I'm not sure what strategy I would take. Talking to the owners first is of course the friendly thing to do, but I wonder if the letter writer was worried about awkward encounters later if the problem did not resolved itself and they had to take it to the police. Now they are "that neighbor"...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-560941019706043382015-03-06T13:42:19.272-05:002015-03-06T13:42:19.272-05:00The city has a noise ordinance that you can find w...The city has a noise ordinance that you can find with a two second google search. There are specific decibel levels and times at which one can create noise at those decibel levels.. I would suggest looking up the definition of "unreasonable noise" in the city's noise code. The problem with enforcement is exactly like some posters have said -- the police don't walk around with decibel meters to enforce noise violations, and anyway they have more pressing problems than noise complaints most of the time. The Dept of Environmental Protection will supposedly investigate businesses if they are a source of noise complaints, but I am sure that takes months to happen if it actually ever happens at all. So unfortunately that means if you live by a persistent noisemaker, calling 311 is not going to solve the problem.. you really need to be talking to a lawyer.. or better yet, move.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-70735375271836632642015-03-06T13:24:52.383-05:002015-03-06T13:24:52.383-05:00Carmen, yep, the only thing the cops did was say, ...Carmen, yep, the only thing the cops did was say, well that's what you get for living here. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-52299845081619595112015-03-06T13:22:21.082-05:002015-03-06T13:22:21.082-05:00So folks know, if you have a bad problem with nois...So folks know, if you have a bad problem with noise, the process is this because 311 is useless: you hire someone to measure the noise so you have proof of the noise level then you present that to the city or in a court. There is such a widespread issue with noise in NYC that there are some who, yes, make a living measuring it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-38589329102070904042015-03-06T13:18:59.933-05:002015-03-06T13:18:59.933-05:00We had a problem with a neighbor not a business, a...We had a problem with a neighbor not a business, and that is much harder to deal with. But we did, we just stayed civil throughout and he got used to us and started listening. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1541468051247516447.post-66578300699335860422015-03-06T13:17:26.022-05:002015-03-06T13:17:26.022-05:00I think a good discussion goes a long way. And by ...I think a good discussion goes a long way. And by discussion I mean actual TALK, not yelling or name calling. I've had plenty of issues while living here and time and time again I've been able to address said issues by talking with people. <br /><br />With few exceptions, most people in our community aren't assholes (admittedly some are) and what I've noticed for some time now is that a lot of complaining happens behind closed doors (or on the internet) and the person being complained about is left with simply being talked about behind their back. Want to know what that solves? Nothing.<br /><br />I will say this, Anon 1:05 is spot on with the police response to legitimate noise and other complaints. We've had some rather ridiculous situations on my block, with dozens of people calling in noise complaints over and over and nothing happens because....wait for it...the police don't even show up.Carmennoreply@blogger.com